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UPDATE: Forsyth County Man Kills Wife, Then Himself

The names of a Forsyth County couple who died in an apparent murder-suicide Monday night have been released.

UPDATE: 12-12-12, 10:50 a.m. (names released)

A married Forsyth County couple who authorities believe were having marital problems were found dead Monday night in an apparent murder-suicide, according to the Forsyth County Sheriff's Office.

Authorities have released their names.

Investigators say John Vitkow, 65, called 911 around 9:40 p.m. and told the dispatcher that he had killed his wife, Nancy Lee Vitkow, 66, with a .357 Magnum gun. He then told the dispatcher that he was going to leave the front door unlocked and was going to kill himself.

When deputies arrived at the couple's home, located on Stonehill Drive in the Pines at Stonegate subdivision in south Forsyth, they tried to make contact with Vitkow via a public address radio. Following several attempts to reach out to him and getting no response, the deputies entered the home and found the couple dead. They had been shot, a press release stated.

During the Vitkow's conversation with the dispatcher, he indicated that he and his wife were having marital problems. Investigators speculate this information could have led to the murder-suicide.

Investigators were able to locate the couple’s next of kin Tuesday night and tell them of the couple's deaths.

Deborah Harple December 11, 2012 at 11:53 PM
Prayers for this family....so sad and even more so at the holidays.
Carol December 12, 2012 at 02:54 PM
Dear. N. (Wife), just this weekend, you told me you knew God was real and loved you. You were so happy to share this and we talked abouthow you knew he had been. Sending angels to help you. I know you are in Heaven now, and playing with yhour beloved pet Rocky, and hanging with your brother. Your death in this tragic manner, is a call for all of us to increase our awareness of and make commitment to protecting persons in vulnerable situations. I pray others will heed this and dedicate themselves anew to finin.g ways to make this world a better place, in whatever way you are led to offer...
Patricia Saye December 13, 2012 at 01:12 AM
My prayers goes out to this family
Linda December 13, 2012 at 03:56 AM
Dear Carol.. I am John's sister living in Philadelphia. Are you a friend of hers? I am so saddened and angry and a million other emotions. Is there any way I could contact you, perhaps you could shine a bit light on this horrible tragedy. John's mother just turned 90 and her heart is broken. Her thoughts are many but the first one is WHY?? Thank You All for you kind words and thoughts. I pray no other family will ever have to suffer like we are now. Thank You.. Linda
Carol December 13, 2012 at 04:14 AM
Dear Linda, I would like to talk with you very much. I don't want to write my number here, but the sherriff "Victim Advocate" named Jean can give you my phone number. Carol,
SouthFo Resident December 13, 2012 at 06:57 PM
I am a neighbor of the Vitkow's, and unfortunately had to watch this tragic situation unfold at their home Monday night. My prayers go out to you Linda and your family, I am so sorry for your loss. My family and I are still trying to make sense of this tragedy as well. It was very reassuring to see the quick response from the 50 or so deputies that converged on the scene in minutes. Thanks to the Sheriffs Office for their professionalism and dedication to keeping this County safe.
Linda December 13, 2012 at 07:48 PM
Dear Carol.. Tears are falling down my cheeks as I read your response. I have been trying to find someone to help ease my pain, and you have come to my rescue. An angel to the rescue. I called Jean, just waiting to hear back. My heartfelt thanks to you for responding. Linda...
Linda December 13, 2012 at 07:56 PM
Dear SouthFo Resident. A million thanks for your kind words and response. I would very much like to talk to you. Would it be possible for us to contact each other? I am at a complete loss, my mother and I are searching for any words or thoughts that could help us understand this senseless tragedy. The detectives and coroner have been so gracious,they did everything humanly possible to help us long distance. I wish I was there to hug them. I pray I hear back from you. John's sister Linda....
Carol December 14, 2012 at 04:14 AM
Dear Linda, I have given my name and information to the Coroner, the Victims ADvocate with the Sheriffs Office and the Sherrif. THey have permission to give my info to anyone in John or Nancys family, and I would lilke to speak to you also. Nancy was a very dear friend, and although I never met John, I felt I knew him a little from m conversations with Nancy. Please call the coronoer in the monring, I have a part time jobint he evenings, so it is usually best to callme before 3 or 4. My heartfelt sympathy for allt hose who have been toughed by this tragedy. God Bless you each.
Carol December 14, 2012 at 04:19 AM
Dear SouthFo Resident I know there was a particular neighbir there who was very kind and helpful to Nancy during her long illness, when she was confined to the wheel chair, and unable to do many of the actiities she enjoyed. It meant a great deal to her that she lived in an area where people cared about and aided one another intimes of distress. God Bless you and your family. And it is gratifying to note your comendation of the Sheriffs Dept and the people who tried to help avert this terrible event. Forsyth does indeed, have a great Sheriffs Dept and thanks to all of you who tried so hard to help Nancy.
South Forsyth Resident December 14, 2012 at 11:28 AM
Dear Linda, I would be more than happy to talk with you. I am trying to figure out the best way to get in touch with you? Is there anyone specifically you have been in contact with that I could leave my information with? South Forsyth Resident
Jane Deritis December 14, 2012 at 03:47 PM
My name is Janie,I am one of Nancy,s sisters. We are very sad to see all this on the Internet Whatwe all should be doing is praying . Our hearts are saddened to see all this going on when Our sister was murdered and shot in her beautiful face for what? When our sister enters them pearly gates Please dear God watch for her and wipe her face and kiss her for us And , Please heal my sad heart .. Thank you guys for your understanding how our hearts r broken Keep us in your prayers xo
Carol December 14, 2012 at 05:32 PM
Dear Janie, I am Nancy's very close friend. I have been trying to get in touch with you all, and you may contact me through the Coroner or Victims advocate. I would very much like to speak with you all. I have information which may be of comfort to you all. Also, you can be comforted in knowing she knew God loved her, and he was reaching out to her over andover to give her strength and comfort. She knew God was sending Angels to help her. I can't call you, due to privacy laws, but you may call me. For now, this "internet" is the only way to reach out to you. Nancy and I wre very close, like sisters, over the last year, and there is much to share. For one thing, she missed you and she wanted to talk with you about some things. In the last month, somone said of her "I didn't know she could be so strong". Nancy was funny, sweet, brave, heroic, inteligent, hopeful, caring...... she loved my grandkids, like they werd her own and when she was so sick, we visited her and their antics entertained her. We are heart broken.
Wendy December 19, 2012 at 07:02 PM
Carol and Linda, I am Nancy's niece. I just recently found out about this tragedy. I live in Alabama...not far. I am still getting over burying my dear Uncle Raymond, Aunt Nancy's brother, who lived with me. He died less than a year ago. Please let me know if there is anything that I can do to help in any way. I left my name and number with the Victim's Advocate Service. 256-919-7088. Thank you, Wendy Cunningham
Wendy December 30, 2012 at 12:21 AM
Hello, I would love to hear anything you could tell me about my Aunt Nancy. I know she used to have a Beagle for a pet. Did she have any other pets that need to be cared for? I have so many fond memories of Aunt Nancy. Of course, over the years, people drift apart. She was only 13 when I was born. I lived with my NanNan, Aunt Nancy, my Mom, and my Uncle Raymond until I was about 5 years old. I have so many precious memories of Aunt Nancy during those years. She was so much fun!! My favorite Aunt!! She taught me so much. I have been working on a memoir called "The Bad Chair," focusing a great deal on those years I spent with Aunt Nancy. In fact, she MADE the Bad Chair. Picture a vintage 1950's green vinyl and chrome kitchen chair...Aunt Nancy and Uncle Raymond drew all over it with magic marker...knives, skulls, stitches, and scary things!!! They made slits in the seat that scratched my heiny when I sat on it. I was made to sit on that chair when I was bad!!! hahahahahahahaha She used to sneak me out of bed by dragging me through the house in a sheet...telling everyone it was dirty laundry! (continued below)
Wendy December 30, 2012 at 12:22 AM
(continued from below) She taught me "Honest and Truly," To this day, when I am questioned about something, I hold up both hands, to insure no fingers are crossed, and say, "Honest and Truly!" She use to iron at the end of the hallway in NanNan's little apartment as I begged her to sing, "How Far Is Heaven..." over and over again and again. She always called me "Wendy Lee" and I called her "Naynie." On my 13th birthday, her and John took me to Valentino's, gave me a sip of Chianti, and bought me a purse with an alligator on it! She also let me wear lipstick that day!!! I will NEVER forget that! We had this big wooden chair with a huge seat and a short back. I asked her what kind of chair it was...she told me it was for people with big fat butts and little bitty backs!!! hahahahaha She was AWESOME!!!! I could write a book...Hey wait...I am!!! I love you dear Naynie...be at peace my dear Aunt. <3 Love Wendy Please post or call with any info...256-919-7088
Wendy December 30, 2012 at 12:27 AM
Linda, You can call me anytime...256-919-7088. So sorry for your loss. I am Nancy's niece, Wendy. <3
Carol January 03, 2013 at 07:31 PM
Dear Wendy, Thank you for responding. I was her friend here, especially in the last year, when she was suffering so much and was so alone. After John divorced her and left her for that other woman, you know she almost died as a result of her brokenleg and the massive infection that set into thebone there. But she had a strong spirit and everytime something happened that was dificult, she overcame it and rebounded. I think, being so alone, that when John came back that last time, (he had comeback several times pleading with her to remarry) that he finally convinced her he was sincere. Over the last 9 months of her life, I had repeated conversations with agencies and experts from Forsyth Co Mental Health, Adult Protective Services, and the Sherrifs office, in an effort to find her the support and protection she needed. Ultimately, she returned to John, putting her life back in his hands, literally. SHe told me "Carol, I just have to give him one more chance" and in her last 24 hours, she told me, she knew God Loved her and had sent her angels in the form of her beloved dog, her friends and neighbors and doctors, ,and the many little miraculous "coincidences" that showed someone was watching out for her. I am so happy to here the happy stories you shared about your childhood and Nancy's place in your life and I am so happy to know you loved and cared about her. I know she loved you..... God Bless you.
Wendy January 04, 2013 at 03:40 AM
Carol, It was so nice talking with you the other day! I just got your message from earlier today...I will call you back tomorrow. Aunt Nancy was so lucky to have had you in her life. I would have gotten more involved, but I was the sole caretaker of my Uncle Raymond for mostly all of his life until he recently passed away. He lived with me and required constant care. It was my privilege to care for him. I miss him so much. I have something that belonged to Aunt Nancy that I am giving to you when we meet! I know that you will love it!! Thank you for being such a dear and special friend to her.
Carol January 14, 2013 at 01:15 AM
Has anyone started planning Nancy's memorial or funeral? I would definitely want to participate in the planning..... thanks
Wendy January 14, 2013 at 02:29 AM
Carol, I would, too! Unfortunately, my family never even told me that Aunt Nancy died! I would love to know the funeral arrangements. No one tells me anything. When I asked my Aunt, I was told I was a "Nobody" and that "It's not my concern," Very sad.

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